This morning on NPR, Lori Gottlieb was speaking of her book -Marry Him- The case for settling for Mr. Good Enough, and as I ate my toast a little sadness come over me. I got to thinking of love, is it that hard to find? Settle? No! I had been married before and it was a disaster, I can't imagine what my life would be like today if I had stayed. I never had a huge desire to be married, just a desire to be with someone who was my lover and my buddy. Sounds simple I know but that was my wish.
After a few weeks of drinking much wine with girlfriends mending my heart, I read the silly book The Secret and thought I would give it a go in my garden. I had been building two new gardens as part of my healing process and they were looking lovely. So I went out in the garden and began speaking to it, with each chore in the garden my whispers came. Sounds a touch adolescent yes, but that is where I was. And I believe the positive energy i planted and spoke of in my garden grew and grew.
A few days later i met the love of my life, a bit sooner than I would have liked, or maybe he was years late? The next day he came over to see my garden, bent down and adored my hens and chickens (a plant) I knew instantly my whispers had been heard.......
Three years later he is my husband, but most importantly my lover, and my buddy! Not a day goes by that looking at him does not give me stars (butterflies)in my belly.
Not sure why I felt compelled to tell the interweb these thoughts, maybe it is the romantic promise of snow in NYC tonight.
If you have no lover to walk in the snow with tonight, go out alone, you never know what you might find...and whispering positive things hurts no one.
Love, Mrs. Buttons